Reflections on Success and Failure

I would be the last person to say that everything I set out to do was a success. I might even go as far as to say that most of the endeavors I pursued didn’t work out the way I’d hoped or planned. At one point, I was under the delusion that if I did the work and remained consistent, everything would fall into place, and I’d reap the fruits of my labor.

The truth is, I didn’t understand many things. I didn’t understand winning. I didn’t understand losing. I didn’t understand that it was a process. I didn’t realize that everything I was doing was building knowledge, wisdom, tenacity, and character.  I didn’t know that I was developing a relentless pursuit of winning mindset.

I recall recently saying to one of my teammates, “Why are we going down this road? It’s likely we won’t be successful.” He calmly replied, “Because we will know that this doesn’t work.” My comment was based on theory; he was searching for fact. Duh. If I were consulting for someone else, I would have said the same thing. But because I was writing my own story, I didn’t follow my own rules.

I grew up playing sports – baseball, soccer, basketball, volleyball, tennis, hockey, etc. I always enjoyed team sports where everyone knew their role, did their part, and contributed toward a shared vision. It was never a situation where someone was on the team because they were forced to be. They were there because they wanted to be and saw the vision of winning.

As I reflect, I realize that even though we didn’t win every game or every season, I tend to remember the wins. I also remember figuring out what we needed to do differently and what we needed to practice to prepare for the next time, whether it was the next season or the next game.

Hope and Expectation

There was always hope and expectation. Hope without expectation is useless. Just hoping lacks the commitment required to win. When someone says, “I hope it works,” my immediate thought is that they don’t fully believe it will. Even if they correct their language, I know we’re not 100% there yet.

In the gym, I generally know how much weight I can lift and how many reps I can do. Whenever there’s doubt—whenever I say, “I hope I can lift this much”—there’s a part of me that knows I might fail. As a result, the energy and focus needed won’t be fully there, and I’ll fail. At that point, I have two options: 1) realize my mistake, get focused, and try again, or 2) mentally give up, recognizing that while I didn’t succeed today, if I want to win, I’ll need to take a step back and come back stronger.  I will need to expect to win.

Strength from Knowing Limitations

I rarely say, “I won’t be able to perform this exercise,” but it does happen. I have to understand my limitations. I know that if I attempt exercises that are outside of my capabilities, there is a chance that I could get hurt, or even killed.  So regardless of what my pride and my ego want to do, my mind has the good sense to tell me to stop.

My companies do not escape this reality.  I’d like to say that I could perform all of the roles required in my company and do them better than anyone else I could hire.  That is not remotely close to the truth.  My companies wouldn’t be what they were or are without surrounding myself with talented people who could “fill my gaps,” as Rocky Balboa said about Adrienne.  By knowing what my limitations are, and knowing what my company’s limitations are, I can identify the people who will join the company to fill those gaps and build a stronger team as a result.

The Relentless Pursuit of Winning Mindset

As I’ve been thinking about what it takes to win, I recognize that a nice tagline, saying, or logo is great, but adopting a relentless pursuit of winning mindset requires intentionality: conditions must be established, and habits adopted.

Here are components that I recognize that I have relied on and seen in others who constantly pursue the win:

1. Vision: This is a no-brainer. To unify your team and move toward a single objective, everyone must be aligned with the vision. In one struggling organization I took over, people left regularly because there wasn’t a shared, driving vision.
2. Goals: Goals break the vision into achievable, time-bound actions. It’s crucial that every team member shares these goals. In organizations where leadership doesn’t communicate goals, inconsistent beliefs about the company’s condition arise.
3. Performance Tracking: Just as in sports, you gauge a team’s likelihood of winning by their past performance, injuries, and leadership. In business, tracking performance against goals—using the right metrics—allows for necessary adjustments.
4. The Right People: Having the right people is essential. This isn’t about filling job descriptions; it’s about finding talented individuals who can go the distance with you. The wrong people can drag the entire team down.
5. Diversity in Thinking: While alignment is crucial, so is diverse thinking. Teams win by challenging conventional ideas and leveraging innovative solutions. “’Yes’ people” are as useful as a screen door on a submarine.
6. Prepare for the Unexpected: Change is constant. Monitoring internal and external factors helps businesses respond swiftly to threats or opportunities, always with the buyer’s needs in mind.
7. Eat the Elephant: Too much change at once can derail a business. Long-term success comes from incremental steps that accumulate into significant change.
8. Don’t Reinvent the Wheel: Identify patterns that work and repeat them. Process engineering provides consistency, helps identify bottlenecks, and simplifies cost evaluations.
9. Prepare to Innovate: While breakthrough innovations are rare, fostering a culture of incremental improvement can create competitive advantages.
10. Democratize Thinking: The military learned in the Middle East that traditional command-and-control didn’t work. By empowering teams to make decisions in dynamic environments, they adapted and won. The same applies to business.
11. Effective Communication: Clear, consistent communication keeps teams accountable and allows for independent decision-making. Define what good communication looks like in your organization.
12. Keep Getting Up: If quitting is not an option – not something that is included in your playbook – it is easier to continue to drive progress. You’ll get knocked down seven times and get up eight.
13. Make the Relentless Pursuit of Winning mindset part of your company’s culture: What makes companies great is the same thing that makes sports teams great: establishing a culture of excellence and relentlessly holding everyone accountable to it. This doesn’t mean creating a toxic environment but fostering a culture where the team holds one another accountable.

It’s not about the size of the organization, but about building a community of like-minded individuals working toward a common goal.

You Won’t Always Win

As stated in this article, “You Won’t Always Win,” being an entrepreneur can be extremely frustrating.  In your mindset, you have to accept that realistically, you won’t win every time. You’ll make mistakes. Your team won’t show up.  The economy, technology, society, etc., will change.  I’ve seen where political agendas have put some not-for-profit organizations out of “business,” yet under similar circumstances, seeing other organizations regroup and reinvent themselves to be able to operate within the law.  The key is how you use that information. Learning from mistakes, identifying where things went wrong, and implementing solutions with clear KPIs will set you up for future success.

The Relentless Pursuit of Winning mindset is what separates those in constant motion from those on the brink of giving up. It’s not a catchphrase; it’s achievable through discipline, focus, and humility. Winning requires admitting your weaknesses and changing accordingly.

I hope you adopt a relentless pursuit of winning mindset.

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